In our SPT Survey for men, we posed the question, “Prior to your small penis acceptance, did you ever experience any of the following? (Check all that apply) “
- Small penis teasing by male (in locker rooms, etc.)
- Small penis teasing by a female(s)
- Humiliation by a female(s) (being sexually inadequate etc.)
Many of our respondents checked one or all of the above experiences. Our first follow-up question was: “If any of the above happened to you, what were your initial feelings (Humiliation Embarrassment, Excitement, and Arousal) Please explain.” Most of the responses we received, not surprisingly, indicated that respondents felt primarily negative emotions/feelings at the time.
Our logical follow-up to these two questions was: “Do you find yourself looking back on some of those experiences, and wishing you could have a “do-over”? Please explain.” The responses we received to this question were surprising to us. Many of our respondents indicated they would welcome the opportunity to have a “do-over.” In fact, many said that they have even become aroused and fantasized about having a “do-over” of some of those experiences that earlier in their lives caused them so much angst.
I have personally had all of the experiences in the first question above followed by the negative feelings and emotions described in the first follow-up question as well. I have also discovered that the past experiences of teasing/humiliation by females to be incredibly arousing in retrospect. The logical question is why? I can’t possibly attempt to answer this question for all men, but I believe for me it has everything to do with my small penis acceptance. The best explanation ever provided to me was by an amazing female sexual therapist who explained to me years ago that I was eroticizing something that had always been a negative emotion/feeling for me. That explanation really resonated with me, and I know that’s why I now eroticize about those distant memories that at one time created so much inner turmoil for me.
So, this leads me to today’s questions:
- Have you had an embarrassing/humiliating experience in your past that you would like to share, and if so, do you now find yourself fantasizing about it, and longing for a “do-over?”
- If so, why do you think you now find something that was so embarrassing and provided such angst for you at the time, is now a source of great arousal?
As always, please feel free to add any of your thoughts and comments!