Do You Wish You Had A Smaller Penis?

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I think it is fairly safe to say that virtually all small endowed guys, at one time or another, have wished, dreamed or fantasized about having a bigger cock.  Personally, I know there were times in my life when I would have done anything to have a big, 9” X 6” cock.  The prospect of being able to project the raw, masculine power of a big cock in the bedroom held a great deal of fascination and appeal for me.  I no longer feel that way now, and am actually quite comfortable and content having a small one, but I can’t deny that there was a time when I fantasized about having a big, stud cock.

A few weeks ago, my wife posted the article, Would You Rather Have a Big Cock or a Small Penis (With Teasing)?”  This article was a result of a question one of our male viewers posed to my Hotwife and we both thought it was a fascinating question.  In her response, she left no doubt that she preferred my small one – with teasing.  For her, the sexual and relationship possibilities of me having a small one (with teasing) are simply far greater than if I had a large penis even though it might be more sexually satisfying.  The reality is, she simply loves all of the SPT-related activities, and the added sexual tension and excitement we have as well as my laser focus on her.  So, when I thought about her answer, it honestly didn’t surprise me at all.  Indeed, you can have a lot of fun with a little penis, and I can tell from the positive attitude of many of our “little” followers, that they know this is true too!

Recently, a number of small endowed men have indicated through comments on the Blog, and via personal emails, that they wished that they were even smaller than they were.  We both found this to be a fascinating admission.   I think this notion would thoroughly confuse a lot of people, especially women.  I believe most women would assume that if a guy had a small penis and he could change its size, he would automatically opt for a bigger one.  Interestingly enough, we have even had one woman pose us this same question, because her husband had confessed this to her and she was curious how common it was.

So why would a guy who already self-identifies as having a small penis want to have an even smaller one?   We have thought about this and can only think of two reasons why a guy might actually want to have a smaller penis.  First, let’s say a guy really craves SPT, but he has a 6”+ penis, and his wife isn’t willing to give him SPT because she thinks his penis is big enough as it is.  So, he fantasizes about being smaller so that his wife would be more willing to give him SPT.  Similarly, maybe the guy has a cuckold fantasy that involves seeing his wife with a man who is very well endowed, but maybe because she already considers him adequately endowed, she is not interested in exploring this activity.  Thus, he fantasizes about being smaller so she might seriously consider it.  The only other example I can think of when a guy might actually wish he was smaller, is if he has a huge cock, and most women he has been with considered it too large. While this is rare, I have actually heard a few larger guys admit this.

So here are the questions of the day to both the men and women out there:

  • Have you (or your partner) ever wished your (his) penis was actually smaller than it is?
  • If so, why did you (or he) fantasize about it being even smaller?
  • If so, what size are you, and what size would you like to be?

As always, feel free to add any other thoughts on the subject!


What Happens When You Can’t Feel His Small Penis?

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I intentionally chose this photo to make a point.  It really isn’t a woman’s fault if a guy doesn’t have a big cock.  But it also isn’t a man’s fault if a woman has a big pussy.  Why does it have to be anyone’s fault if there is a size mismatch?

Piggybacking on the article about pussy size, I thought this topic was especially pertinent and timely.  We received an email not long ago from an obviously younger, smaller endowed guy who was quite upset.   He placed ALL blame about his small penis size on women. He blamed women for having big pussies, and he actually felt a woman should NEVER use a dildo and be completely content with a small penis.  Well, some women are content with a small one, but some of us also enjoy a larger dildo too, and if we do, what’s so wrong with that?   What this young man failed to understand is, when you’re in a relationship, it shouldn’t be a “blame game.”  What it should be about is good, honest and healthy communication about all matters, including sexual issues.

So back to the question of this article, what should a woman do if she can’t feel her partner’s cock?  By the way, there can be a few different reasons why this is likely to be the case.  (1) There may be a complete size mismatch – he’s very small, and she is very big.  (2) The female partner, through age and or childbirth may have been stretched to the point where she can no longer feel her partner.  In both of these cases, the usual solution is normally to use sex toys like a dildo, a penis extension or a strap-on cock to provide the female partner the feeling of fullness she craves.  By the way, there is nothing wrong with this, and we do know for some couples on this blog, they do use sex toys frequently for this very reason, and for them, it serves as an ideal solution.

There is another way this can happen, and that occurs when a couple opts to use a dildo or sex toys first.  In our case, Steve loves the “sloppy seconds,” but when he enters me after our big boy toy, to be honest, I can hardly feel him or I can’t feel him at all, and when I can’t I tell him, and he cums in like two seconds! :-)   But, in his case, Steve absolutely loves it.  It validates his small penis size to both of us, but it really, really turns him on.  It turns me on too! :-)

So, if you are in a relationship where the female can’t feel your small penis, should she refrain from telling you?  Should she fake orgasms?  Or, should she be completely honest with you, and have fun exploring alternate forms of sexual pleasure?  My hope would be that you both have fun experimenting with new things.

Here are your questions to ponder:

For the Female Readers:

(a)  Can you feel your partner’s penis?

(b)  If not, what do you do to achieve sexual satisfaction?

For the Male Readers:

(a)  Can your partner feel your penis?

(b)  If not, how does it make you feel?

(c)  If not, do you use dildos to supplement your sexual activities?

As always, feel free to add anything else you think is relevant here and thank you for your responses!

The Appeal of “Outing”

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One of the most fascinating subjects my wife and I have enjoyed reading about is the interest so many small endowed men have expressed in wanting to be “outed.”  There isn’t just moderate interest in this topic; rather it seems to be something many small endowed men are really intrigued by.  I think most people would be very surprised by this idea, because I believe the prevailing wisdom is, if you have a small penis, wouldn’t the last thing on earth you would want is for others to know about it?  Yet, many small endowed men find this idea to be highly arousing.

When it comes to “outing,” there also seems to be two distinct types of this activity.  The first, and most common is where the female partner reveals the intimate knowledge that her partner is small endowed to others.  The second type is where the guy “outs” himself to others such as frequenting a nude beach or resort, or participating in clothing optional activities, etc.   Of course self-outing requires more discretion, because it would have to be done in a way that is both socially acceptable and appropriate.

We first touched on the subject of outing, in the article, “Why Do Small Endowed Guys Want to Be Outed?” which was posted on November 16, 2013.  In that article we listed a few of the possible scenarios in which a woman could “out” her small endowed partner, and we received a lot of responses.  Since we posted that first article, we have had many readers contact us or leave additional comments on the blog suggesting that another follow-up article would be one seeking specific suggestions on how to be “outed” in a way that is both socially acceptable and appropriate.

So, to that end, I have a few questions along those lines that I would like to pose to our readers.  Hopefully your comments will provide some insight into why being outed holds such a fascinating appeal for you personally and also gives some ideas and guidance to others who have expressed an interest in the subject.  So, here we go:

(a)  To get a better sense as to the WHY it turns guys on, the first question is:  What is it specifically about being “outed” that really turns you on?  (Be as specific and descriptive as possible)

(b)  Is there someone in particular that you would want to be outed to? Your wife’s girlfriend(s), a stranger or someone else?

(c)  Which type of outing turns you on the most – (1) Where your female partner outs you, or (2) Where you self-out yourself?

(d)  If you prefer being outed by your female partner, do you want to be publicly or privately outed?  For example, being publicly outed is taken to mean your partner tells someone(s) in front of you that you are small endowed – like the female clerk in an adult bookstore, etc.  Or, privately outed would be she reveals this knowledge to just one person like a close girlfriend privately without you present – but she tells you about it later?

(e)  If you prefer to self-out yourself, how do you do it in a way that is both socially acceptable and appropriate?

(f)    What is your ultimate small penis “outing” fantasy?   If you could arrange your perfect “outing” scenario, how would it happen and who would you be outed to?

In your response, please try to answer each specific question by letter, so there is a clear distinction between your responses.  Thank You!

Questions for Women (Part 4): Outing Your Husband

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This is a fascinating topic, and surprisingly many small endowed men want to be “Outed” by their wives/partners, but what do the women think.  These questions are for you:

(a)  What are your general views on Outing your husband/partner?  Have you done it, or would you do it?  Or, would you like to do it but aren’t sure how or to whom?

(b)  Does the idea of “outing” your husband embarass you or does it turn you on knowing your partner/husband want it, or does it have no effect on you at all?

(c)  Along those lines, if you’re best girlfriend revealed that her husband/partner was well-endowed by comparison; would you feel embarrassed admitting your partner had a substantially smaller penis?

Feel free to add any other views you have on the subject!  Thanks!

Small Penis Convention

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Recently one of our followers asked a question that I would like to ask all of you…

Would you attend a Small Penis Convention?

My answer is…YES! I would love to attend and I would check out EVERY man there while thinking, “How “small” are you?”

I think this would be the perfect “outing”! :-)

Cock Comparisons

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Here’s a newsflash.  Guys love to compare their cocks.   Some of you guys probably already know about this site, but it’s fascinating.  It’s called “The Visualizer” ( ) and on this site you can create your own “virtual” penis and then compare it with literally any size penis/cock.  For example, I went in and compared myself with “Mr. Medium” who has, as the name implies an average sized penis.  How did I compare?  Well, I discovered “Mr. Medium’s” penis is 35% longer and 82% larger by volume.   No surprise, but it’s still interesting.

It’s a fascinating site, because you can do a “Profile Comparison” like the one in the above photo, or you can do a photo comparison next to a ruler.  You can also compare your penis to other guys who are small, average or big.  You can compare yourself with site members, porn stars; you can even “customize” your competitor.  For example, if you ever wondered what your penis would look like next to say an 8” long  X 6” thick cock, you can create your competitor, and then see how you differ in length and volume.

If you want to become a full-fledged member there is a membership fee, but there are other advantages to you.  For example, you can also go to the “Inspector Room” and have your erect cock compared with a couple of dozen other guys in a “line-up.” They also have a validation system which allows your exact measurements to be recorded.   Those guys you see with a green check mark under their names have had their penis sizes validated.

The interesting this is, you might be surprised by how many women members they have on this site.   A woman can go in and input their husband/partner’s penis size and enjoy comparing him with lots of different sized guys.  Apparently some women are curious about cock size, what a surprise!  After showing my wife how this worked, she said you HAVE to put this up on the blog.

So here you go, this might be a little fun for you and your wife/partner to do some evening.  Just be prepared for a little small penis teasing after she sees the results! :)

Why Do Small Endowed Guys Want to Be Outed?

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One of the interesting things that came to light in reading the comments from the article, “Would You Mind If She Told Her Girlfriend(s)? is it struck me just how many small endowed guys think or fantasize about being “outed.”   I have received a number of personal emails on this subject, from some of our readers who are really turned on by this dynamic.   Until I saw some comments about the subject on the blog, I have to confess that I had never given it much thought.   But in hearing how even the idea of itpossibly happening is so arousing for some small endowed guys, I have even begun to think about it more myself, and what I have discovered is, it holds a fascinating appeal for me as well.

So, why does even the mere possibility of it happening excite so many guys?  This is another one of those no “one size fits all” answer.  One of our blog participants put it succinctly when he said, in a way being outed “Ups the Ante” so to speak.  For those of us who enjoy SPT with our partners, this certainly would take it to another level, and therein is the appeal –someone else would know about our little secret.  Another piece of the thrill is, its taboo for a wife to divulge such confidential and embarrassing information, yet, that’s why there is the source of excitement.  Your wifey is doing something that “good” wives just don’t do.

So, how is a guy “outed?”  Well, the possibilities are really endless.  Here are a few of the more common ways:

A close girlfriend (or confidant):  This is probably the most common scenario.  Your wife tells her BFF that you have a small penis and requests that she doesn’t tell anyone else.  The wife then tells her small endowed hubby/partner that her BFF knows, and it’s almost like the erotic gift that keeps on giving because from that point forward every time the hubby/partner sees the BFF it provides him with an ongoing source of both excitement and angst.

Multiple Girlfriends:  One of our blog contributors shared with me a dream he had:  “I dreamed that my wife and I were at a holiday party with a group of friends.  The ladies got talking about penis size, which made me completely uncomfortable in my dream.  My wife posed the question to the group of female friends…  how big do you think my husband is?  She passed around straws and scissors so that these women could cut the straws to the length and then she gathered them all up.  She showed me the straws, and then showed me the one she cut to length…  she asked me if I wanted her to show them her straw.  I felt very anxious and scared – she told them that none of them were correct, but she didn’t show her straw.  One woman in particular said that she cut hers really small as a joke too.  I woke up feel pretty uncomfortable.”  No wonder why he woke up uncomfortable, because now, his whole social circle of female friends knows.  While he might be excited about this happening, and it would provide an ongoing source of masturbation fodder, the ramifications of such a disclosure would no doubt be far reaching.

A Stranger:  One particular fantasy I have involves going with my wife to an adult bookstore shopping for a new dildo.  She says to the female clerk, “I would like to buy a new dildo.”  And the female clerk asks, “What size would you like?”  And my wife responds, “Well at least 7 inches because my husband has a little penis.” I can imagine the excitement, yet angst of such an exchange.  Or, if we were in the same store and my wife asked, “Do you have any small-sized condoms?”  That question would elicit a similar reaction in me.  This is probably a safer scenario in that you are unlikely to ever see this stranger again because they aren’t a friend or someone in your social circle.  Adding to the titillation of this scenario is you were there, so you heard all of it with your own ears and even saw the expression (probably a smile) on the female clerk’s face.

Of course there are many other ways this could happen, and there are even variations on these themes as well.  For example,  I could see a scenario where my wife is talking to a sexually frustrated girlfriend, and my wife says, “I have a great sex life despite the fact that my hubby has a very small penis.”  I can just see the other woman’s eyes bug out, the jaw drop, and hear the questions:  “How small is he?”  “How can he satisfy you with such a small penis?” “Do you have orgasms?”  I think part of the attraction of this scenario for me personally is that it casts the small penis in a positive light.  Since so many women assume a man with a small penis is incapable of satisfying a woman sexually, the fact that my wife would be so willing and eager to share the benefits of a small penis is somewhat titillating and goes against the grain.  I’m not sure if this makes sense, but it does fascinate me.

What are the risks of being Outed?  Many guys who expressed they desire to be outed also made it very clear they would want it done in a “controlled” way.  But, if your wife tells her girlfriend that you have a little penis that information is almost too juicy to keep to herself.  The BFF might go home and tell her husband, her neighbor, or her friend, so there is no guarantee it wouldn’t become community knowledge.  So, while very erotic and appealing, being outed is not without risk.

So here are today’s questions:

For those who haven’t been “outed” but think about it:

(a)  What is it about being “exposed” that really turns you on?  Or, does it not turn you on at all?

(b)  In your ideal scenario, how would this happen?

(c)  Is there someone in particular that you would want to be outed to? Your wife’s BFF or someone else?

For those of you who have been outed:

(a)  How did it happen and what was your reaction to it?

(b)  Has this had a positive or negative effect on your relationship?

For the women who want to contribute to this, how do you feel about outing your partner:

(a)  I would love to Out my partner, or already have!

(b)  Am somewhat neutral about it.  I mean I would do it in the right situation, but I could take it or leave it.

(c)  I would be interested to do it if my husband wasn’t so small, but the fact that he is, would embarrass me to share that information.

(d)  I really am not interested in this at all.




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