Do You Fantasize About Watching Your Wife Having Big Cock Sex?

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This is truly a fascinating question.  It’s a subject I have wanted to address for some time, because in reading comments from many other small endowed guys, this subject seems to come up frequently, and we are curious to know how common it is among our readers.  Ironically, it was a recent email from one of our female followers who urged us to address it openly because she and her partner are seriously considering exploring this “taboo” sexual experience.  So, in the spirit of providing superior “customer service,” we decided to offer this article as food for thought.

I think if the truth be known, many more men than anyone would ever suspect or even like to admit to, have fantasized about watching their partner having sex with another man.  How will his wife react?  Will she act more “slutty” with him than she does with me?  Will she have more orgasms, or more intense orgasms?  These are all questions that might run through a man’s mind who has contemplated this.  While I believe more men are curious about this than anyone could even imagine, I believe this a very common fantasy among small endowed men.  And, more often than not, this fantasy will usually involve his partner being with another man who has a bigger cock – not just longer, but thicker too.  This of course flies in the face of conventional wisdom because I think for some men the last thing on earth they would want is to see their female partner enjoying a much larger cock than they have, yet, for many small endowed men they are not only not threatened by this possibility, they are very much turned on by it.

When we ponder this issue, one question that might come up is, do women also fantasize about big cock sex?  I suppose the answer depends on the individual female. I’m sure some do, and maybe some women don’t necessarily fantasize about it as much as they merely contemplate it.  If she hasn’t had big cock sex before, perhaps after hearing all of the hype about it, maybe she is at least curious to find out if bigger really is better.  If she has had big cock sex in the past and it was pleasurable, perhaps she is interested in experiencing it once again.  In either case, if the male partner opens that door, they may consider it as a possibility.

For some couples who jointly share this fantasy, a common solution is bringing a large dildo into the bedroom, or the small endowed male may use a strap-on cock or penis extension.  These options can of course, be a lot of fun, and are obviously less complicated than introducing a third person into the sexual equation, plus, it’s also a safer alternative as well. But for some couples, they may want to push the envelope and actually do it.

What is behind the appeal?  I’m sure the answer depends on the individual and the couple considering it.   My wife and I were reading a fascinating article recently entitled, “Take My Wife Please,” by Kai Ma.  While this article does examine the issue in the context of a cuckold lifestyle, it does an excellent job of briefly summarizing the psychology behind it.  And to be clear, couples do not even have to be in a cuckold relationship to want to do this.  There are many couples who are engaged in the swinging lifestyle that find this fascinating too, and to be clear, you don’t have to even identify with either cuckolding or swinging to want to experience this either.  You may simply want to explore it because you’re both curious about it.

So in an attempt to answer the primary question raised in this article, here are questions for both men and women to answer:

Questions for Men:

(a)  Would like to watch your female partner being serviced by another more well-endowed man?

(b)  Which statement is true for you?

o   This is a fantasy of mine, and it’s already happened or it will probably happen

o   This is a fantasy of mine, but will probably only remain a fantasy

o   This is not a fantasy of mine at all

(c)  If this is a fantasy of yours, what do you believe is behind your desire to see this happen?

(d)  If this is something you fantasize about or have made a reality, what is your preference in terms of the other male?  I.e. would he would be a total stranger, a friend you both know, a bull or lover, or an ex-boyfriend or other?

(e)  If you were to engage in this activity, what would be your ideal place of preference to watch them in action?  I.e., would it be your home or his, a neutral location, etc.

(f)    If you’ve had this experience in real life please describe your feelings of being “the voyeur”

Questions for Women:

Please answer the same questions as the man from your point of view.

(a)  Would you like for your male partner to watch you being serviced by another more well-endowed man?

(b)  Which statement is true for you?

o   This is a fantasy of mine, and it’s already happened or we are planning on making it happen

o   This is a fantasy of mine, but will probably only remain a fantasy

o   This is not a fantasy of mine at all

(c)  If this is a fantasy of yours, what do you believe is behind your desire to see this happen?

(d)  If this is something you fantasize about or have made a reality, what is your preference in terms of the other male?  I.e. would he would be a total stranger, a friend you both know, a bull or lover, or an ex-boyfriend or other?

(e)  If you were to engage in this activity, what would be your ideal place of preference to be watched in action?  I.e., would it be your home or his, or a neutral location, etc.

(f)    If you’ve had this experience in real life, please describe your feelings of being watched by your partner?

Final Question to both men and women, if someone asked you for advice on how to take this from fantasy to realty, what would you suggest?

As always, try to answer each question by letter so that your answers are easily understood and separated.  Thanks in advance for contributing!

What is Your Penis Size?

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We have never done  this on the blog before, and I thought it might be fun.  Most guys who have revealed their penis size with us in one place or another, but we don’t have all of you cataloged in one place.   Sometimes we are reading an article, and my wife will say, “What’s his size again?”  So, I thought it would be fun to have a “little” penis size competition and ask everyone to participate.

Here are today’s questions for both men and women.  Note:  If you’re a female contributor, please tell us about your partner’s penis:

(a)  What is your penis size (length and girth)

(b)  Describe your penis (include circumcised or not, your ball size, thick or thin, etc.)

(c)  What do you love about your small penis?

As always, please be as descriptive as possible.  Thank you!

The Appeal of “Outing”

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One of the most fascinating subjects my wife and I have enjoyed reading about is the interest so many small endowed men have expressed in wanting to be “outed.”  There isn’t just moderate interest in this topic; rather it seems to be something many small endowed men are really intrigued by.  I think most people would be very surprised by this idea, because I believe the prevailing wisdom is, if you have a small penis, wouldn’t the last thing on earth you would want is for others to know about it?  Yet, many small endowed men find this idea to be highly arousing.

When it comes to “outing,” there also seems to be two distinct types of this activity.  The first, and most common is where the female partner reveals the intimate knowledge that her partner is small endowed to others.  The second type is where the guy “outs” himself to others such as frequenting a nude beach or resort, or participating in clothing optional activities, etc.   Of course self-outing requires more discretion, because it would have to be done in a way that is both socially acceptable and appropriate.

We first touched on the subject of outing, in the article, “Why Do Small Endowed Guys Want to Be Outed?” which was posted on November 16, 2013.  In that article we listed a few of the possible scenarios in which a woman could “out” her small endowed partner, and we received a lot of responses.  Since we posted that first article, we have had many readers contact us or leave additional comments on the blog suggesting that another follow-up article would be one seeking specific suggestions on how to be “outed” in a way that is both socially acceptable and appropriate.

So, to that end, I have a few questions along those lines that I would like to pose to our readers.  Hopefully your comments will provide some insight into why being outed holds such a fascinating appeal for you personally and also gives some ideas and guidance to others who have expressed an interest in the subject.  So, here we go:

(a)  To get a better sense as to the WHY it turns guys on, the first question is:  What is it specifically about being “outed” that really turns you on?  (Be as specific and descriptive as possible)

(b)  Is there someone in particular that you would want to be outed to? Your wife’s girlfriend(s), a stranger or someone else?

(c)  Which type of outing turns you on the most – (1) Where your female partner outs you, or (2) Where you self-out yourself?

(d)  If you prefer being outed by your female partner, do you want to be publicly or privately outed?  For example, being publicly outed is taken to mean your partner tells someone(s) in front of you that you are small endowed – like the female clerk in an adult bookstore, etc.  Or, privately outed would be she reveals this knowledge to just one person like a close girlfriend privately without you present – but she tells you about it later?

(e)  If you prefer to self-out yourself, how do you do it in a way that is both socially acceptable and appropriate?

(f)    What is your ultimate small penis “outing” fantasy?   If you could arrange your perfect “outing” scenario, how would it happen and who would you be outed to?

In your response, please try to answer each specific question by letter, so there is a clear distinction between your responses.  Thank You!

My Wife Is a Size Queen

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My wife’s last post and this follow-up is simply an attempt to share with our followers her new “revelation” and why we both find it extraordinarily erotic and has added a lot of fun to our relationship.  Our decision to include dildos in our sex life was actually my idea.  I did so knowing that I have a very small penis, and thought it might be a fun way to expand our sexual horizons.  I don’t feel bad or threatened by it at all.   These two articles are not meant to be a suggestion that every man with a small penis, or any penis size for that matter, should include dildos in their sex lives.  It’s just something we did and enjoy, and wanted to share our experience.   As always, whatever penis size you have, whether it’s small, average or big, thick or thin, we hope you will love your penis and enjoy sex with your partner in whatever way you choose to do so as a couple.

So, do I think it’s a bad thing for my wife to openly acknowledge she has become a Size Queen?  Not at all, in fact, I find it highly erotic.  My wife has always been one of those women who was incredibly multi-orgasmic and could cum easily, even with my very small penis.  Not all women can but she definitely did and still does.  Because of this, she was never really “cock centric,” because she never cared about penis size since she was able to experience a great deal of pleasure with my small one.  But over the last few years in experimenting with various dildos, she has discovered that she really does enjoy her larger dildo.  I believe she is correct when she says that on some level, I instinctively knew she would love it if she gave it a chance, and I’m really glad I did.

When I slide the big cock dildo into her pussy, I watch her pussy lips expand to accept all of its thickness, and I guide it in slowly, and her pussy is so wet and it’s amazing to me how quickly and easily she accepts its full size.  I move it in and out slowly and in rhythm with her body.  I can tell by the look on her face that she has become consumed by the intensity of a “big cock” experience.  I can also tell by the way her body moves and reacts, that it would be impossible for me to replicate this kind of sexual experience for her. As she stated in her article, the orgasmic experience she has as a result is unlike anything she has ever felt.  Even though I cannot provide her with this kind of intense sexual experience and we both know it, I still relish in her enjoyment of it.

Seeing your wife pleasured by a larger dildo can be an intimidating and scary proposition for some small endowed men.  They might worry about her enjoying it too much, and of course, they may even worry that she might actually be driven to seek out a “real” big cock.  Some men may also become insecure, envious or even angry if she even implies she would like to try a dildo.  I have to confess at one time in my life, I would have felt threatened by the idea too, but I’m now completely comfortable with who I am and what I have, and that makes a big difference.   Of course dildos and other sex toys are not for everyone, and if not, that’s ok too.

But for many of us, seeing our wives pleasured with a large cock dildo, has the opposite effect – it is highly arousing.  For me personally, it makes my pulse quicken and little penis stiffen.  I am so turned on and overwhelmed by her sexual capacity it is unlike anything I have ever experienced. It is also tangible proof, seen with my own eyes that size does matter to my wife, and I am very comfortable with that idea.  We still have very enjoyable small penis sex frequently, and there are times when she might want that stud cock AND my little penis in the same night to mix things up. But we both prefer her to enjoy the “big cock” sex experience often because of the dramatic difference in her orgasmic response.  Seeing her pussy stuffed full of cock and watching her in orgasmic heaven is truly amazing. She might have as many as 5-10 mind-blowing orgasms while using her big cock dildo.  Why would I want to deny her that kind of intense and satisfying pleasure?   It was not shocking to me that she would like it, but I think even I was a little surprised at HOW much she would love it.

This may sound strange to some, but it’s almost as if her dildo has come to represent a big cock rival “competing” for my wife’s attention.  Much has been written about how a male responds when watching his wife have sex with another man. It’s often been described that after such an experience it’s as if they (the husband and wife) are almost in “heat” for each other.  And, despite the fact this is a dildo and not a man with a real cock, the effect it has on me is quite similar.  As one of our good friends who is in the swinging lifestyle said that after attending a swinger’s party, he and his wife sometimes have to pull off on the side of the road on their way home to have sex.  Believe it or not, even my wife’s dildo produces the same effect on us.  It’s as if we both become in heat.

The idea of enjoying “sloppy seconds” is also a concept that can be very difficult to understand or even explain to someone who hasn’t enjoyed them.  Every single time she even pulls out her big dildo from the nightstand, my small penis stiffens instantly at the mere sight of my “rival.”  My erections are always harder, more powerful than ever and the amount of cum I ejaculate inside her is simply off-the-charts.   When I slide my little penis inside my wife after she has used a larger dildo the feeling is simply indescribable.  I slide inside her easily and there is no resistance at all because it’s obvious she has been well fucked by a much longer and thicker “cock.”  I feel very small inside her, but that feeling too, is very erotic and highly arousing. It’s also validation to both of us why she does need her large dildo frequently.  Simultaneously, this experience validates my wife’s incredible sexual capacity as a woman, and her ability to accommodate almost any size “cock” is amazing, and intoxicating to watch.  It excites me like little else.

I think the fact that she is now very comfortable expressing her desire for her big cock dildo is a testament to our communication and sexual honesty.  Why should she worry about expressing what really turns her on, or what she needs?  She always wants to have sex with me at some point anyway, so I hardly feel like I have been kicked to the curb.  This revelation has, of course, had major implications in our sex life, and my role in it.  It has allowed me to focus even more attention on compensating for my small penis by becoming a master of all forms of foreplay including oral worship, which I love to provide her with. I actually think this has made me a better and more attentive lover by being in touch with all of her sexual needs.  Including a large dildo has simply added another option to our sexual smorgasbord, and we both love it, and consider it a win-win for our relationship.

Why I Love My Big Cock Dildo

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I never thought this would happen but I can no longer deny the obvious.  I have to confess, I have become a true Size Queen. I LOVE my Big Cock Dildo.  The difference between Big Cock sex and little penis sex is like night and day.  When “my” Big Cock enters me, I feel “taken” in a way that a little penis cannot take me.  I feel every ridge and vein of the big, hard cock against the sides of my pussy, and I feel it all the way to the depths of my cervix.  My pussy feels completely “full,” and I immerse myself in the feeling of being truly filled and well fucked.  I have so many orgasms I lose count.  They are far more intense, more numerous, longer lasting, and more powerful than anything I have experienced before.  I have no idea if it is reaching that elusive “A-Spot” or not, but I believe it is because I have never experienced anything like this, and I LOVE it.   My dildo is so much longer, so much thicker and I feel completely consumed by a big cock.

Sometimes after I have been fully satiated by my big cock, I will let “little” Steve enter me.  He feels SO much smaller, in fact, there are times when I honestly don’t feel him at all and I will whisper this to him. He immediately gets SUPER turned on and almost cums instantly.  This is validation to me that my pussy not only needs, but craves a bigger cock.  And it’s not that sex with my little hubby is bad, but it’s just so much different.  When he enters me, he feels VERY small, and slender, and doesn’t open me up and fill me like a big cock does.  It still feels very pleasurable, but in a soothing sort of way.  While he can still provide me with a vaginal orgasm, it’s not nearly as intense or as powerful as a big cock, and we both know this.

It’s interesting because when we are about to have sex, my hubby will often ask me if I want a cock (my dildo) or a penis (him). I used to feel guilty when I chose the dildo, but I no longer feel that way because I crave those wonderful orgasms only it can provide for me.  Somehow, my little hubby instinctively knows and understands all of this.  It’s as if he knew I would feel this way about a big cock even before I did, but it turns him on like nothing else ever has.  He is quite content with “sloppy seconds,” in fact; I think he even prefers them.  His little penis has not been replaced; it has just lost its turn in my pecking order!  :-)  The only thing missing for me is a man attached to that big, wonderful cock! :-)

Is it a bad thing to acknowledge that I have become a Size Queen?


Questions for Women (Part 4): Outing Your Husband

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This is a fascinating topic, and surprisingly many small endowed men want to be “Outed” by their wives/partners, but what do the women think.  These questions are for you:

(a)  What are your general views on Outing your husband/partner?  Have you done it, or would you do it?  Or, would you like to do it but aren’t sure how or to whom?

(b)  Does the idea of “outing” your husband embarass you or does it turn you on knowing your partner/husband want it, or does it have no effect on you at all?

(c)  Along those lines, if you’re best girlfriend revealed that her husband/partner was well-endowed by comparison; would you feel embarrassed admitting your partner had a substantially smaller penis?

Feel free to add any other views you have on the subject!  Thanks!

Questions for Women (Part 2): Have You Become More Cock Centric?

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For most of us (men & women) involved in any or all of the activities described on this blog, one undeniable fact is clear.  Penis size is at the heart of all of it.   Those of us who are small endowed are well aware of the effect penis size has on us.  We think about it, fantasize about it, daydream about it, and in short, it dominates most of our thoughts.  But what effect does all of this have on our female partners?  These questions are an attempt to answer this question.

(a)  Since you and your small endowed partner have become involved in SPT, etc., have you become more cock centric?

(b)  Do you find yourself looking at other men’s bulges?

(c)  Are you envious of other women who are married to more well-endowed men?

(d)  How does sex/the relationship change if the woman can’t feel her husband’s penis or it is too small for sexual satisfaction?

(e)  Do you think that the use of dildos is more prevalent and necessary in a small penis relationship to supplement a man’s lack of size?

(f)    To the woman in a committed relationship – now that you have come to grips with your small endowed partner, have you ever been tempted to look for a well hung lover?  If so, would you really do it if given the opportunity?  Or, are you quite content with your partner’s efforts to please you in other ways?

Feel free to share anything else with us that comes to mind.


Questions for Women (Part 1): Implications of Having a Small Endowed Partner

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In requesting suggestions for upcoming articles, we have received some fascinating and excellent questions from both our male and female contributors.  The questions we have received seem to fall into one of four categories, so we decided to create a 4-part series designed specifically to solicit responses from our women contributors.  These are serious questions that many men and women ponder who are in small penis relationships.  Hopefully, this will provide you with more food for thought in your own situation, and also provide information for those who peruse this site and are contemplating some of the activities we frequently discuss here.

The questions in Part 1 deal with the implications for a woman who is in a relationship with a small endowed man.

(a)  How does a woman in a relationship with a man who is small endowed view her husband/partner?  By that we mean do women feel that being married to a small endowed man makes him less of a man, even if sex is great in other ways?  Or, does the small size of his penis have no impact on how you view your man at all?

(b)  Many of the small endowed men on this site are into a whole smorgasbord of activities that may include small penis teasing, sub-dom relationships, cock comparisons, withholding sex, orgasm denial, “outing,” fantasy cuckolding and other related activities.  How do you view his interest in this varied subject matter?  Do you tend to lose respect for your husband because his interest in these activities may be viewed as “less manly”?  Or, do you consider him to be “enlightened” allowing for more sexual exploration and in turn, more fun?

(c)  What do you perceive are the advantages of being in a relationship with a man who has a small penis?

(d)  What do you perceive are the disadvantages of being in a relationship with  a man who has a small penis?

(e)  Do you ever get tired of dealing with “small penis issues” in your relationship?

As always, please feel free to add anything else you think is relevant to the topic.


Big Cock Shock & Awe

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I’m sure this photo will catch everyone’s attention.  Here is the scenario, you are walking on a beach or at the pool with your wife/partner and you catch a glimpse of a guy with a very noticeable huge bulge, what would you do?  Would you put your arm around her, and steer her in another direction, or would you continue walking straight ahead, and not care if she saw the “view” or not?  At the same time, what thoughts would be racing through your head?

The reason why I ask is there was a time when I probably would have steered my wife away from such a view, and felt a great deal of internal anxiety and been horrified if she would have seen it.  This is just another example of how my views on this have changed over time with my small penis acceptance.  I have a small penis, I know it and my wife knows it, so I’m no longer horrified if I find myself in this kind of situation.  If I saw this view now, it might be “Big Cock Shock & Awe,” but I wouldn’t be surprised by it, nor would she.  I would also now probably nudge my wife and say, “Check that guy out.”  It’s the same way with her if she sees some woman with a hot body, she would say, “Check her out.”  So, I’m wondering, how many of you guys have had a similar transformation once you accepted your penis size?  Or, do you find yourself still feeling very uneasy, perhaps even terrified in this kind of situation?  How do you think your partner would react?

And here are a few questions for our women followers.  It’s the same scenario, only you see this guy first.  What would your reaction be?  Would you want to continue walking towards him enjoying the view?  Or, would it make you uncomfortable?  And, how do you think your significant other would react?  Would he be mortified if he knew you saw this view, or would he be comfortable and ok with it?

How To Satisfy A Woman With A Small Penis

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We cover a wide range of sexual topics surrounding the small penis on this blog, and some of the topics we discuss may even be considered “taboo.”  But, the name of this blog is “Love Small Penis,” so while we do discuss a lot of fascinating subjects involving the small penis, the bottom line message we try to convey to all lesser endowed men, is the importance of learning to accept, love and celebrate your small penis.  If you have the right attitude, the confidence and put forth the effort, you will be able to satisfy most women, regardless of your endowment.  While this article is geared toward small endowed men, I would argue that the suggestions provided below can apply to any man regardless of whether he has a 4, 6 or an 8 inch cock.

Before I continue, let me say that I really enjoy this blog, and I’m really proud of my husband for having the desire and interest to “create” and maintain it.  We have had many wonderful and exciting discussions about the articles and comments from followers.  Those of you, who have gotten to “know” him, understand why I love him like I do.  His ability to express his ideas and thoughts about this complex and fascinating subject is amazing.  I enjoy contributing to the effort, and this article is one that needs to be written, and I believe is best written by a woman.

This blog has been a real eye-opener for me.  I have learned that many of the same fears and apprehensions Steve had expressed to me over the years, as well as many of the things that now turn him on, are shared by many small endowed men as well.  I have also been equally fascinated by the women contributors, many of whom are also married to men who are small endowed.  The love and affection you have for your husbands/boyfriends is evident in what you write and how you describe your relationship.  Your ideas and suggestions provide encouragement and also serve as an inspiration to all men regardless of their endowment.  I also want to reach out to those of you who are “lurkers” (men and women) and invite you to join us.  This is a non-judgmental blog that may help you better understand this very sensitive and hard to discuss issue.

In an article I wrote back on July 8th, Why I Love My Husband’s Small Penis” (Steve’s Wife), I described my own personal views about penis size and sex with my husband.  While that article focused on why I love my husband’s small penis, I realized that I wanted to provide some ideas and thoughts that may help any small endowed man realize his “full” potential and show him how he can compete for women just like any other man, regardless of the size of his penis.  This isn’t an all-inclusive list, and I’m sure other female contributors will chime in, and I hope they do, but this is at least a start! J

Give Maximum Effort:  One of the comments I have seen several women make on here, and that I completely agree with is for a man to give maximum effort in bed. Don’t be a slacker.  It shouldn’t be about the “quick” slam-bam-thank-you-mam orgasm so you can get back to the football game, rather it should be about, as Steve has said, “Bringing You’re “A” Game” every time.  There is a time and place for “quickies” to be sure, but remember the importance of giving maximum effort when having sex with your partner.  We want to be pursued, desired and conquered regardless of how many “inches” you have.  Nothing turns us on more than effort, and that alone speaks volumes to a woman and is a major turn on.

Communicate With Your Partner:  Don’t make the mistake and assume your partner knows what you want.  For example, early on, I couldn’t get Steve to respond to what he liked when it came to a simple blow job.  I’m not a mind reader, so I wanted him to tell me, what felt good, what he wanted, how he wanted it done, etc. Similarly, to you guys, don’t assume you know what your partner wants when it comes to her “oral needs.”  Ask her, if she wants you to move up or down, or to a different area, or more pressure or less, etc.  A common mistake we all make:  What may have worked great with a former partner, may not work at all with your current one.  And don’t forget to open up and tell us about your fantasies and needs.  Remember in my previous article on the subject where I mentioned what a mental mind fuck it is for us when you share those intimate details.  Communicate!

Recognizing and Conquering Fears:  This is a very important one.  Steve explained to me after the fact that the first time he undressed before me he was almost paralyzed with fear because of his small penis. What he didn’t realize or could even comprehend is that I was just as terrified as he was.  Would he like my body?  Would he like what he saw?  Would he be turned on, or be completely turned off? Did I have too much of this, or too little of that?   These fears cut both ways, and most of us (men and women) have them.  The first step in conquering fear is being able to recognize it.

Lifelong Sexual Education:  Don’t make the mistake of assuming you have all the requisite skills in your sexual tool box, and therefore you don’t need to learn or try new things.   The beauty and excitement of sex is expanding your horizons.  Plus, what turned you on when you were 20 may not be as much of a turn on when you reach 40 or 50.  Our needs, desires and fantasies continue to grow, change and expand and we should be sexually flexible and open to new possibilities.  The variety and mixing things up adds to sexual pleasure and is just plain fun.  It can help keep things alive and exciting.

Foreplay: There is a myth when it comes to providing a woman with great oral sex.  The myth goes like this:  Well-endowed men don’t like it, and aren’t very good at it, while all small endowed men are masters at it.  Many small endowed men see this as the great “equalizer” and it can be, but don’t just assume you are a master at it.  Talk to your wife/girlfriend and learn exactly what she likes, where she wants it, how much, etc.  You certainly can be a master at it, but again, it takes effort.  A man who is an expert with his tongue and fingers can work magic on any woman.

Understanding Sexual Differences:  Steve has written about this at length, and the Kama Sutra, written centuries before, does an excellent job describing it, but it’s very important to recognize your sexual differences.  For example, the Kama Sutra talks about the ideal “coupling” in penis/vaginal sizes as: small & small, average & average, and big & big.  What do you do if your hubby/boyfriend has a small penis and you have an average or larger sized vagina?  Have you ever thought about that?  Have you tried a variety of sexual positions to identify those that work best for you?  Even if you have the “ideal coupling” there may still be some challenges.   For example, Steve & I are both small down there, but some traditional sex positions don’t work because Steve’s penis isn’t quite long enough and he slips out.  Again, the good news is there are lots of very good sexual positions that can maximize your sexual pleasure and can help bridge any gap in size differences.  Plus, there are always “toys” which can also add to your pleasure.  And, what would you do if your hubby had a big penis and you were small down there?  There are just as many positions you can try to minimize any difficulties from that end as well.  Unfortunately, a lot of couples don’t understand the importance of sexual differences and what you can do if there is a slight mismatch in your sizes.  Experimenting can be a lot of fun.

Spontaneous Desire:  I’m going to go out on a limb and try to speak for the majority of women here.  We love the desire and lust our husbands/boyfriends show us.  It affirms our desirability and we simply love the attention.  I love it when my husband fondles me or otherwise shows physical signs of desire, even if it doesn’t lead to instant sex. Maybe I’m on my way to work, but still the touching, feeling, and yes even “groping” is a demonstration of that desire.  Knowing he can’t keep his hands off of me really turns me on.  Similarly, a simple passionate kiss unexpectedly is another visible sign.  Not the good-bye kisses in the morning or the “Hello how was your day” kiss in the evening, but the unannounced, for no particular reason, deep, passionate kiss just because he wants to.  That is hotter than hot!

Spontaneous Sex:  Similarly, spontaneous sex is the ultimate turn on for me.  It’s taking that demonstrated desire to a whole new level.  Being taken on the dinner table, the couch, the stairs, etc., is another example of that heated desire.  Sex shouldn’t be “scripted” and only occur on “date night” or when the moon is full.  Let me be very graphic here.  There are times, when women don’t want to be made love to, we want to be fucked, and I mean fucked hard and with intensity and passion.   For you small guys, when my husband does fuck me like this the last thing on earth I’m thinking about is he “only” has 4 inches.  I am so turned on, and wound up, when we are in the throes of passion, how many inches he has is the last thing on my mind.  This kind of demonstrated desire is not out of the reach of any man regardless of his penis size.

Do You Know Your Wife’s Erogenous Zones?  One of the most erotic and exiting things for a woman is having a man that both knows and understands his woman’s erogenous zones. My personal major erogenous zone is my nipples.  They can barely be touched, tweaked or sucked without sending a major shiver straight to my pussy. It’s automatic, and it’s every time. I love it when they are tweaked beforehand, and even during oral sex. It’s an unbelievable feeling and one that I simply can’t get enough of.  Fortunately for me, my husband knows this and is an expert at providing them the attention they deserve.  But, for another woman, it may not be her nipples at all. It may be her neck or some other body part that needs “extra” attention.  A skilled lover will seek out this knowledge from his partner and learn to master it.

Go on Dates:  When was the last time you took your wife out on a date, and referred to it as such?  Take her out for an evening and tell her ahead of time you want to go on a “date.”  Have a nice dinner, sip some wine and give her your undivided attention.  (Hint: And don’t be checking the sports scores on your iPhone during dinner.)  If you haven’t done this in a while, watch her reaction. There is nothing that will start a woman’s engine running than having a “hot date” with the man she loves.   I guarantee she will love it, and you just might get lucky when you get home!

These are just a few things that any man, regardless of his penis size can do that will really turn a woman on. What are you waiting for?   Surprise her, try some of these ideas and see how she responds.  My guess is she will love it, and love you even more for the effort! J



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